Real Girls Eat Posts

January 27, 2017
January 19, 2017

Health is one of those things that each of us at some point in our lives take for granted. I know I certainly have. We simply expect to wake up each morning, completely ok and able to function normally. Run…

Read MoreThe One Thing We All Take For Granted

January 16, 2017

We’ve all had it said to us before, “you need to love yourself”. And we smile and nod and toss the well meaning advice aside until one day it hits us, and we finally realise we actually do have to…

Read MoreWhen you learn to love yourself

July 16, 2016

Love holds different meanings for everyone. There is no right or wrong in love. No book to tell you how it’s done. So when I was asked what love means to me, I realised there is no single short answer.…

Read MoreLove…..in my humble opinion

February 3, 2016

The impossible connection is what I seek. Deeply involved and impossibly unique. For him to feel what I feel, and to understand why. To listen and nurture, not simply wait to reply.   When we meet, in that moment, he’ll…

Read MoreThe Impossible Connection

November 9, 2015

We’re all rebels deep down. We just deny who we really are. Embrace the rebel within…. Do the opposite of what you were taught in school. Don’t worry about the opinions of others. They are based on that person’s own…

Read MoreEmbrace the Rebel Within

October 18, 2015

“Live the full life of the mind, exhilarated by new ideas, intoxicated by the Romance of the unusual.” Ernest Hemingway How many things have you ever believed with such conviction that turned out to be untrue? And I’m not just…

Read MoreWhy We’ve Got It All Wrong

October 17, 2015

Never have I loved, the way that I loved you. Never have I yearned, the way I yearned for you. Never have I cried, as much as I cried over you. Never have I hurt, the way my heart hurt…

Read MoreA Life Unlived

October 14, 2015

Romance is like a drug. It can take us to heights we never thought possible, act as a healer for old wounds and make seemingly terrible ideas seem brilliant. But it can be equally harmful, reality distorting, all consuming and…

Read MoreWhy We’re Addicted to Romance

October 3, 2015

No matter how much you prepare and plan for the future, what defines the path we end up on is largely based on what we choose to carry with us and equally, what we choose to let go. Life is…

Read MoreBeware Excess Baggage

September 15, 2015

There is a love that exists, a beautiful, achingly painful, all consuming, breathtaking love that fills your heart to bursting, ignites your soul and permeates every inch of you with a passion so fiery your entire being emanates an energy…

Read MoreSometimes Love Is Not Enough

September 5, 2015

Playing the victim is a role far too many of us would be worthy of an Academy Award for.  Let’s face it, it’s much easier to make excuses and lay the blame at someone else’s feet rather than turning inwards…

Read MoreWhat I’m learning from my broken heart

August 29, 2015

Have you ever asked yourself “What is my intention?” Although it may be logically obvious, we often forget that we alone are responsible for our own lives and our choices, whatever they may be, will have consequences. If you find that…

Read MoreWhat is your intention?

August 29, 2015

We are all whole, beautifully unique becomings, not beings, who deep down share an interconnected desire which doesn’t in any way detract from the rarity of our own individuality. Every human being is unique but underneath those differences there is an…

Read MoreThe Secret about what we really want

August 29, 2015

Self Actualisation. Where to begin How do you attain the state of self-actualisation? How do you reach your fullest potential?  There will come a point, in any given situation in life, whether it be your job, a relationship, where you…

Read MoreThe Journey to Self Actualisation

August 28, 2015

There are times when we are so full of different thoughts, feelings and emotions that we don’t know where to start. New concepts come to light and others we’ve realised before come out from the shadows to put us back…

Read MorePorn for the mind: the power within

July 4, 2015

It all started because I didn’t want to eat meat. Sitting in bed on a Sunday evening, blankets piled up high against the biting winter air, my mind wandered and my tummy started to grumble. “I’m hungrrrry”, I whined. “My…

Read MoreAn anorexic in a normal body

June 22, 2015
June 17, 2015
June 12, 2015

There at the fork I stood, Waiting for life to show me the way. Both paths disappearing into the woods, Straining to see which I would take that day. There were no signposts, No others to lead the way. If…

Read MoreWhere I stood…

June 11, 2015

I really am a bitch. To myself that is. If you could hear some of the things that run through my head you would be horrified. I cut myself down, undermining who I am, rarely seeing myself as worthy. Why?…

Read MoreHow to stop judging and start winning instead

June 6, 2015

We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more from imagination than from reality. Seneca (4 BC-65) When we’re children, our fears are usually tied to our overactive imaginations. They are stories we conjure up in our heads, that…

Read MoreThe monsters under your bed

June 2, 2015

“Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realise that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.” ~Eckhart Tolle Life can be a bitch. There’s no denying it. There are times when…

Read MoreWhen life’s a bitch

June 1, 2015

“Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.” ~Buddha I have an addictive personality. There’s no point denying it. I’m all or nothing. A million miles an hour or completely out. And it’s in times…

Read MoreHarnessing your inner addict

May 29, 2015

“I don’t know a perfect person. I only know flawed people who are still worth loving.” ~John Green Thoughts of not being good enough have plagued my mind constantly over the years. Even when I have achieved things others consider…

Read MoreFor anyone who has ever felt they were not enough

May 26, 2015

More often than not, the greatest opportunities in life are triggered by adversity, especially when it comes to personal growth. Trauma forces us to stop and reflect. We’re faced with ourselves in our rawest state, with nothing to hide behind…

Read MoreWhen life doesn’t make sense, here is your answer

May 25, 2015
May 21, 2015

In your own hands No one can give you self-respect. You can’t buy it, nor can you pass it on. And with time, you will come to realise that no one can take it away from you either. Self-respect doesn’t…

Read MoreHere’s one life choice you have to make

May 21, 2015

The term ‘mindfulness’ seems to be thrown around a lot but what does it actually mean to be mindful and more importantly, how do you actually do it? You are not the thoughts running through your head Mindfulness involves awareness of your present…

Read MoreThe beginners guide to mindfulness

May 15, 2015

When people meet me today, they see a strong, confident young woman, full of drive and sheer determination to succeed. They see someone with a passion for life, a hunger to learn and an addiction to growth. This hasn’t always…

Read MoreWhat I really look like naked

May 12, 2015

To change your entire life trajectory, all you need to do is alter your habits. It seems radically simple but if you do this, you will change your world. 1. Start here: Self-acceptance. Consider this. How often do you find…

Read MoreHow to change your life without even trying

May 12, 2015
May 10, 2015
May 8, 2015

“Awaken; return to yourself” – Marcus Aurelius “But I don’t know who I am. How do you love yourself if you don’t even know who you are?” This is what was running through my emotionally overloaded head, awash in a…

Read MoreLoving the stranger inside

May 7, 2015

It is the difficult times that have the most valuable lessons to teach you. It’s in the face of adversity that you will find yourself rising to the occasion and demonstrating near superhuman strength and courage to overcome whatever it…

Read MoreCourage under fire

May 7, 2015

What the ability to listen says about you Being able to listen intently to others and really hear them reflects your attitude that other people’s lives really matter. Its only though listening that you can leave your own world behind…

Read MoreCan you hear me?

May 7, 2015

Your attitudes are directly reflected in the choices you make and how you respond in any given situation. These are probably ‘younger’ than you, especially if you’re stuck in any kind of addictive patterning. When I say addiction, don’t automatically…

Read MorePut your big girl pants on and make a decision

May 6, 2015

All too often, our reactions reflect an unconscious belief that life should be perfect. But if anyone were to come to you and ask if you expected life to be perfect, you would in all likelihood say ‘no’. So it’s…

Read MoreThink of life as a series of imperfect events.

May 5, 2015

“We don’t see things as they are. We see things as we are.” Anais Nin It’s not what you do, how much you earn, where you live or how beautiful you are that determines the quality of your life. It’s…

Read MoreAttitude is everything

May 5, 2015

“Virago”:  A strong, brave, or warlike woman; a woman who demonstrates exemplary and heroic qualities. Live fearlessly and make your own decisions based on a well measured balance between sound judgement and intuition. Always seek out opportunities, observe the world…

Read MoreEmbrace your inner virago….

May 5, 2015

So many of the problems we face in life are created by us. I can hear you now, “why would I actively create problems for myself, I’ve got enough already?” The fact is, our problems are manifestations of our fears…

Read MoreThe Power of the Problem

May 3, 2015

Nothing is more attractive than confidence. I don’t just mean to the opposite sex, I mean in every way to everyone. I can hear you now. ‘But what if I don’t have anything to be confident about?’ Fake it till…

Read MoreConfidence is Key

May 3, 2015

The world can’t be divided between those who need to set goals and those who don’t. For many, goal setting uncovers a painful gap between reality and aspiration; head and heart; persistence and passivity; hard work and complacency. Goals are…

Read MoreGoals. Who needs them?

May 3, 2015

Your Values are the words with which your life’s message is written. Following a break up, I found myself doing a lot of reading, trying to work through the pain and rebuild what in that moment was so broken. So…

Read MoreYour life’s message

May 3, 2015

All about him We give away everything when we give other people the power to decide whether or not our lives have value. For a long time I allowed my self-worth to be tied directly to my partners and their perception…

Read MoreWhen all you want is love

May 3, 2015

There are times in life when you feel as though you don’t know yourself. Maybe you never have. In these moments when you feel lost in your own life, your inner world is a valuable resource. Make a choice there…

Read MoreA stranger to yourself.

May 3, 2015

Words have vast power- their power remains long after the speaker is silent. Think about it for a moment. Has anyone ever said something to you that has never left you? Negative comments seem to leave more of an indelible…

Read MoreThe power of what you have to say

May 3, 2015

Know what’s right about you Being self-aware isn’t being selfish. When you feel comfortable about who you are,you will be less concerned with just yourself and what others think. Looking at it differently, if you’re aware of your own inner…

Read MoreGet to know what’s right about you

April 27, 2015

We’ve all been told over and over not to look to others, especially those we’re in an intimate relationship with, to meet all our needs. It’s unrealistic and leads to unhealthy expectations and ultimately disappointments in relationships. So let me…

Read MoreWill you be mine?

April 27, 2015

When things go wrong in life, and they will, you have the choice about how you will respond. This choice puts the power directly back in your court and in turn reduces the power of any fears you may have.…

Read MoreWhen things go wrong….and they will

April 26, 2015

Whether you believe it or not, no one knows you better than you know yourself. If we run around asking others opinions or what we should or shouldn’t do, we are acting out the assumption that others know more about…

Read MoreNo one knows you better than you know yourself

April 26, 2015

Knowing who you really are may seem like a fairly simple concept. Everyone should know who they are, right? Well, not necessarily. There may be times in your life when you’re left questioning who you are, what you want or…

Read MoreHow to get to know yourself

April 26, 2015

You and only you are responsible for your own happiness. Looking to other’s for love and approval is something I have done my entire life. This approach is flawed because it means that your self worth is tied directly to others…

Read MoreChoosing Happiness

April 26, 2015

Sometimes life throws you a curve ball and leaves you questioning everything you thought you knew about yourself. It’s not easy when you find yourself ‘lost’ in your own life, wondering which way to turn and where to start. No…

Read MoreMy Life is My Message

January 28, 2015

Guilt Free Vanilla Almond Cookies So I have a serious sweet tooth. I’m a self confessed dessert queen. I could seriously eat dessert for breakfast, lunch and dinner if I could get away with it and not see the consequences. in a…

Read MoreHealthy Vanilla Almond Cookies

December 16, 2014

A week ago I had my heart broken. It was carved out before my eyes and the space was filled with an all consuming pain. A grief that I just didn’t know how to overcome. Despite everything I have been…

Read MoreDaddyless Daughters

November 13, 2014
November 12, 2014
October 10, 2014

Most of the people I meet who haven’t been touched by an eating disorder personally all want to know the same thing: what causes Anorexia? The answer isn’t a simple one. A number of factors will contribute to a person developing…

Read MoreWhat causes Anorexia

October 7, 2014

Here are some of the best low carb protein bars and balls you can eat that aren’t too high in calories. As someone who has a serious weakness for sweets but is keen on keeping a bikini-ready body I find that…

Read MoreBest Low Carb Protein Bars and Balls